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You constantly feel like you’re falling behind—no matter how hard you try to stay on top of things?
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You learned to keep it all bottled up because showing emotions never felt safe—or useful?
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You’re tired of being misunderstood—by your partner, your boss, or even past therapists who didn’t get how your brain works?
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You want help, but worry that therapy will be too slow, too soft, or miss the point?
Men, you’ve experienced trauma, and you’re not sure where to turn. You’ve been conditioned to keep what happened to you inside, but it’s tearing you apart, damaging your relationships, and alienating you from others. Whether it be abuse, neglect, a physical confrontation, war, or death, something has happened that’s changed you, and the way you see the world/yourself.
Men struggle too
Do you ask yourself, “why do I feel angry all the time”, “why do I feel broken”, “why do I shut down in relationships?” Men are struggling more than many people realize—and the numbers prove it. In the U.S., over 6 million men experience depression each year, and men die by suicide nearly 4 times more often than women, according to the CDC. Yet, men are far less likely to seek help: only about 1 in 3 men with mental health symptoms actually reach out for support. Many have learned to suppress emotions, power through pain, or stay silent—especially when it comes to trauma. But trauma isn’t always a dramatic event—it can be growing up without emotional support, living under constant pressure, or never being allowed to feel vulnerable. When it’s not addressed, it often shows up as anger, disconnection, addiction, or burnout. Men’s trauma therapy creates a space where you don’t have to pretend—just be real, be heard, and finally begin to heal.
Trauma Therapy for Men
You don’t need to talk it out, to get through it
We’ll work to desensitize you to triggering memories and the negative core beliefs that have been reinforced to you; in a treatment called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). We’ll then develop coping mechanisms and a deeper understanding of how your trauma has influenced your behaviors and relationship patterns, in an effort to change them. I’ve worked with men for over 6 years, and have been able to help change the lives of countless trauma survivors, who had fears that therapy was not going to truly solve the issue.
Together we can work to make that trauma that has been so hard to touch for so long feel significantly less distressing, so that you can maintain/fix the relationships in your lives that have been collaterally damaged by it.
You often hear from men that they either do not feel comfortable discussing their feelings in any manner; thinking that simply talking about the issue would not do anything. My approach is unorthodox compared to traditional talk therapy. I prefer to take a loose/relaxed approach to conversation, especially when we’re first meeting to make you feel that you’re talking to a friend rather than being at a doctor’s office. I firmly take a no-judgment approach, and keep everything you say to me confidential by law. My approach to EMDR is the perfect remedy for the type of client who feels that they have already “talked about” their issues at hand. Oftentimes, I’ll have someone say that they understand a concept they’re telling me is illogical (such as “I’m not good enough cause my dad said xyz”), but that their “emotional brain” cannot let the belief go. EMDR is perfect for this situation, and reprocessing the memory to eliminate these beliefs. Lastly, I aim to be the type of therapist who makes someone think that I’m different. I want to create an environment for you where you feel that I’m someone you’d want to talk to on any given day and in any setting.
PTSD Therapy for Men.
EMDR therapy is different from traditional talk therapy— and that’s often a huge relief for men who struggle to open up. Instead of requiring you to talk through every detail of your past, EMDR uses a structured approach to help your brain reprocess painful memories and patterns. It’s especially helpful for trauma that feels “stuck,” like memories or emotions that keep showing up as anger, shame, or withdrawal. Because it doesn’t rely on long conversations or analyzing everything out loud, EMDR can be a better fit for men who feel frustrated by standard therapy or who have ADHD and find it hard to stay focused in sessions. Many people report progress more quickly with EMDR, and it works by helping your nervous system finally “unfreeze” from old wounds, without needing to relive every moment.
If you’re not sure or are still on the fence, I offer a FREE 15-minute consultation for us to discuss the gist of your issues and how my treatment can make massive changes in your life. I’m available via email or phone, and almost always respond the day of.
