Experiencing a miscarriage is devastating. Each one carries its own unique tale of sorrow and loss. Some happen earlier on and others later in the pregnancy. Sometimes it comes on suddenly and is over before you can process what is happening and others are long, drawn-out affairs.
Regardless of how and when it happens, you experience the loss of your hope, your dream of that child, and the plans you saw unfolding for your family’s future. Those who have experienced recurrent miscarriages report it as a horrendous nightmare. One where you know the ending, but you cannot do anything to stop it.
It is estimated that 1% of women experience repeated miscarriages. We know that miscarriages just happen and we don’t usually have an answer as to why it did. Normally a cause for multiple miscarriages is chromosomal abnormalities or an issue with genetics of the pregnancy. Just as a single miscarriage, the grief of this is not easy.
Feelings of guilt may arise following each loss and each time the feeling of defeat increases. You might start to feel like losing hope and that having another baby isn’t an option. Self isolation may occur and cause strain on personal relationships. All of this is to be expected when losing a baby.
For some women this can be overcome in a short period of time and for others it may take longer. It’s hard to find strength and try again with the possibility of the unknown. But if you feel you mentally and physically don’t want to try again that is perfectly okay. You may be struggling with the emptiness and feeling of void during this journey and speaking to a counselor can help. Death is a hard topic to speak about and you may feel like you’re alone in this. Click ‘schedule an appointment’ today and have a free 15 minute consultation to receive the support you need.
Remember to take care of yourself and listen to your body.
Monica Bartley MS, SWT